Ep.7/ Communicating with different conflict & coping styles
“Just say it.”
with Haley and Erin
Touuuugh love baby. That’s what this one feels like.
From the jump, Haley is calling out Erin for her anxious energy and Erin wastes no time diving into having the conversation about the conversations - that is, the ones that haven’t been the comfiest.
You see, while we’re best friends, as you know by now our friendship skipped a lot of the bullsh*t. To date, there hasn’t been any drama, any issues or any major upsets, but throw running a business into the mix and sh*t can get dicey.
Turns out, 99% of the time it’s actually just Erin feeling some kind of way about something that Haley actually didn’t say. Or sometimes we’re a little too rushed, a little too tired, a little too hungry…and a comment (ahem - tone) can be taken the wrong way.
This week we discuss what it’s like to be on opposite sides of the sensitivity scale - from Haley’s vantage point, it’s a great learning opportunity. From Erin’s POV it f*cking blows.
“What I heard was ‘I don’t know what I can and can’t say to you because everything upsets you.’”
In true couples therapy fashion, we get into attachment styles, RSD, meeting our inner children in the muck, and the things that we’re doing that are helping us stay regulated.
No matter what side of the threshold you find yourself on, one thing is for sure. Nothing worth having comes easy and the realest of relationships swing the same way.
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xo
Haley & Erin
